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I’m a mom. And this is what I strive for:

Writing this blog has been a bit of a challenge—and not for the lack of content—but because of the abundance of information that Jason and I want to share.  We feel that though we both went through this together, we do have some different views and tips.  We both have really been trying to hold back on our information—and to space out what we have to share.  But this one just can’t wait.

Again, if you watched our show, you met our two wonderful children, Sam and Sabrina.  But you didn’t get to see as much of them as we liked.  And it bummed us out kind of, because they are just simply awesome kids.  Sabrina is full of questions and curiosity.  She is ALWAYS listening.  Sam has a sweet soul and THE. BEST. LAUGH. that you may ever hear.  They are both full of spirit and happiness.  And I’m not just saying this because they are our kids.

Okay maybe I am.  But I’m their mom and that is what moms do.

And long before Chris Powell ever came into our lives, Jason and I had decided long ago we did not want to pass on our “unhealthy” behaviors.  We decided, pretty much from birth on that we didn’t want Sam and Sabrina to ever really love food in an unhealthy way.  Part of that was to lead by example.  Part of that was to provide them with better choices than we sometimes chose.  Really, I feel, it came down to balance.

You see, for a long time, I strived for perfection.  I wanted my diet and exercise to be perfect.  I never wanted to sway from my plan.  It was all or nothing.

And that kind of thinking, led me to 290 pounds.  Not just that—there is more where that came from, but a lot of it.  I didn’t want my kids to ever think they had to be perfect.  Life isn’t about being perfect.  Perfect is not realistic, it’s just not.  So instead, I strived for BALANCE.

It really started with my children long before I practiced it myself.  Jason and I wanted them to eat healthy and to have a wide variety of food choices.  But we also knew that we couldn’t always control their environment if they weren’t with us.  So, we simply gave them the best choices that we knew how.  And we hoped that because of those healthy choices and options they would learn to make the better choices.  Balance, not perfection.

For example, something that was missed that the TV camera’s filmed was “The Healthy Game”.  The Healthy Game is a quick game played in the car or when making dinner…really, wherever.  I would simply ask, “Apple.  Healthy or unhealthy?”  And Sam and Sabrina would answer accordingly and it opened up a discussion about different kinds of foods.  With some foods it really is more than just a simple yes or no so it was fun to sometimes take apart the food and see what we could come up with.  Eventually they would start the game off and play with each other or with Jason and me.

Today, Sabrina eats a huge variety of food and favors almost any kind of fruit.  She could demolish a cantaloupe in one sitting.  But you know what?  She also loves ice cream and has it, on occasion.  Not every day or night, but on occasion, when we stop and get ice cream as a family.  BALANCE, not perfection.

Sam, my son who I raised in the exact same fashion, cannot stand cantaloupe and prefers no skin on his apples.  His palette has been a little tougher, even with all of our hard work.  But he also enjoys asparagus with sea salt and loves grilled chicken and shrimp.  If you were to offer him soda (okay, I really say pop here in Michigan) of any kind he would turn you down flat.  But he loves birthday cake.  And you know what?  He has it, on occasion.  BALANCE, not perfection.

I have so much more to share about being a mom and raising children in this crazy busy world where convenient foods ARE easier for our busy lifestyle, but not always necessary.  There are quick and healthy recipes for a TON of things out there.  The same goes for snack ideas.  I went through this year trying to find time to take care of our children and our house, exercise, do laundry, take the kids to their activities, attend family parties and functions, and just LIVE life, all the while things were crazy and busy.  Many times I didn’t think I could do it.

But I did and I want to share how.  To inspire others.  To motivate.

And if you are a mom, trust me when I say that I get it.  I know you are tired and busy and life is overwhelming and hard.  But you can do it.  Really.

BALANCE.

Stay tuned.

 

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(homemade whole wheat waffles–recipe to come soon)

The Beginning

As you read this blog, you will find Jason and I sharing food tips and recipes, what we do for exercise, and all the “traditional” things that you would expect to find in a blog about “Extreme Weight Loss”.

But, along with these tools and tips that we want to share, there are things that the show didn’t share with you—that are important, that MATTER to our story, and really, are a huge part of WHY we reached out for help.

Sam and Sabrina

If you were able to catch our show (and we hope you did!), you really only caught a GLIMPSE, a SMALL glimpse of our children.  I hope, that within that glimpse you were able to see what wonderful, kind, loving children they are.  Because they truly are.  They are our world and our true inspiration and we love them beyond all possible words.

When I found out I was pregnant with twins in 2006, it was truly one of the happiest days of my life.  I couldn’t wipe the smile off of my face all day long.  And the day they were born—even happier.  Jason and I were beyond thrilled to welcome two healthy children into the world.

With all the joy that Sam and Sabrina brought into our lives, I knew I was doing them a disservice by being overweight.  Not only because Jason or I couldn’t be as active as we wanted to be.  Not because we were eating junk food (they rarely saw that).  That was a small part of it.  Not even because I was overweight.  But because I truly felt HATE for my own self because I was fat.  I hated looking in the mirror.  I hated getting dressed.  I wondered if people were judging me and hated THAT feeling as well.

If I was overweight and okay with myself, that was one thing.  But I realized, as time went on, that my children were seeing my hatred of my own self—and that is a not a good thing.  I made sure to never speak those words in front of my children, but children KNOW.  They read people well.  They pick up on signals, on cues.  And I knew, it was only a matter of time before they would catch on.

I didn’t want our children to have a mother that hated herself.  I didn’t want our daughter OR our son to have a crappy body image.  I needed to set a better example.  Jason needed to set a better example.  We just didn’t WANT to change, we NEEDED to change, for our children.

And so, for the love of our children, I reached out to Chris.

 

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